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By: Liza Tornton, Tue Jul 15th, 2008
When we are 20, we are young, naughty and ready to do everything for spending more time with him, having sex in the most outrageous places, trying the most eccentric sex toys out and making all our fantasies come true. When thirties come knocking, most probably we are married. We have a child. And every time we both plan to have a romantic dinner and a wild marathon under sheets, something happens. And how about 40s? They hungrily hammer at the door and are eager to enter our comfortable body and mind. What happens then? Is sex just a pleasant phantom? Do we have enough time for it? Desire? Last weekend, me and my husband had a party. Since it was far away (another city) we've left two of our children to our friends' apartment, while the youngest boy has been taken to my parents' house. A few hours were needed to find the destination. We've greeted all the guests taking some pictures and talking about life and future plans. We had left early and came back home, where we feel truly amazing and comfortable. And so is sex. At this age we don't have too many fads and caprices. And when we have the occasion we make the most of it! When I was 20 years I was changing lovers as often as underwear. I was young and free to do everything I want and like. Women of my generation were the first who profited from opportunities equal with those of men. Unfortunately, they were not ready for them. Sex was considered a taboo or a sinful pleasure. Me, like all ladies of my age were preoccupied with my appearance. To seduce, receive compliments and make men fall in love was truly important for my ego. Thus I met my men and we got married 7 weeks right after our first romantic encounter. My marriage went to pot in short time. I've decided to go ahead and live in harmony anyway. Thus I've found another person whom I love and care. This time all went quite smoothly. Most experts are of the opinion that the number of sex sessions decreases after the first year of marriage. Then you have babies, so farewell sex forever! I was one step from belonging to this statistic as the first two years of our mutual cohabitation was exactly so. However, me and my man both know that we should create a team for making our sex life perfect. No sooner said that done. Sex at 40 years is fabulous because it reminds partners again and again that they are not only friends but still love each other. And when children, work and anxieties make you believe that happiness has gone from you, an efficient scheduling of your time and a note of creativity in the bedroom is capable to work wonders. And when it comes to bed... It's funny and ironic. When we are young we are afraid of our parents to enter the room and catch us doing “that”. And when we are 40 years old, we face the same problem. But with our... children. Does that refer to the “cycle of life”, too? Isn't that something mysterious?